| churrleader 
 
 
 
  churrleader
 
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				|  Posted:     Post subject: i have a question |  |  
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				| i've heard lots of arguments about the whole celibacy thing. to start off, i've NEVER had ---.
 but, i've made out with a few guys. i've given hand jobs. i've been fingered. i've given b--- j--s.
 does this disqualify me from the whole asexual/celibacy deal?
 some have told me it does, others have told me it doesn't.
 
 
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		|  whalewatcherii
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				| `I wouldn't think so.  I'm new at this too & I'm no virgin.  I think it's up to the 2 people involved, how much 'making out' is going to happen between them.  On the A ------ site I found, I read a lot in their forums, before I found this site.  I saw many who didn't want any contact w/anyone, physically, --------, etc.  None of it.  Then, there were some who wanted minimal contact, like holding hands, some cuddling.  The majority I read w/the A ------ site, was very low contact, which was frustrating to me, b/c I want to share affection w/who I'm with. If you make that known ahead of time, there will be no surprises then.  I would think that only other people who wanted that too, would be interested in contacting you, unless you also included pen pals, just friends, etc.
 I tried to cover a wide area, b/c this is new to me, & I don't want to be too exclusive of too many out there, especially w/any new friends I may be able to make & talk about this with.
 I think you're fine.
 
 
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