Thomas3300 writes: } would like to find someone to share my life with but no ---. I'll sleep with someone and cuddle but draw the line at ---. Are people with this outlook just nuts or are there normal people out there that just don't like --- or can't have --- but are still mentally OK? Any thoughts on this? Thanks for reading. Tom {
I'm male, age 55. We're probably not normal in the statistical sense, in that undoubtedly most males like to have --- and find it difficult to sleep/cuddle a woman without being aroused and wanting --- or at least to be able to ejaculate one way or another to relieve the ------ tension. Certainly that described me while I was younger. Though in my last relationship (13 years ago), I knew that she didn't like sex, so I learned to secretly masturbate in the bathroom before sleeping with her.
But I have recently been seriously doubting my ability to have ---. Celibacy has been fine with me for now but who knows. If I meet a woman who wants sex, then I will work with my urologist on that.
Anyway, I haven't had a relationship or physical contact with a woman for many years -- until recently.
Early last year while bar-hopping in Minneapolis, I walked into a strip-club, expecting to be quickly bored and move on.
But this sweet creature came up to me and asked me if I wanted to lap dance. I said no but gave her a $20 and told her (truthfully) I have not had any relationship or physical contact with a woman in 12 years and hoped she could sit close and talk and cuddle. She did.
Since then I have been spending about a dollar a minute (plus some extra bonuses) for "C and C" -- conversation and cuddling -- with about 3 different women. I go for a "C and C" session about 6 times a month (nearly $5500 spent since March 2007). Though I haven't been cuddling in full -- mostly she just sitting up close next to me so our legs and arms are touching, occasionally gently rubbing each other's backs and shoulders (caressing), sometimes holding hands for awhile. I have never wanted to, or asked to touch any sensitive areas of theirs, nor them of me. And never kissing. (OK, I'd like to touch sensitive areas and kissing, but its not a big deal to me, and I don't want to be seriously aroused if I can't do anything to relieve the ------ tension).
I'm generally happy about all of this. I am happy to find that I greatly enjoy the cuddling whether partial or full and that a desire for more (i.e. for sex) is not bothering me. I enjoy the happiness and contentedness feeling that light gentle non-sexual cuddling brings.
I haven't had a real girlfriend because I don't think I can offer much possibility of a marriage. I like living alone, and I'm kind of a workaholic, i.e. I'm not much in the way of Mr. Fun Guy. All the real-world girlfriends I've had in the past wanted marriage (or at least a live-together), and I feel guilty that I wasted so much of their lives without giving them what they wanted. So having pretend girlfriends in strip clubs and cuddling them is the next best thing. It works for me. - Johnny
I'm male, age 55. We're probably not normal in the statistical sense, in that undoubtedly most males like to have --- and find it difficult to sleep/cuddle a woman without being aroused and wanting --- or at least to be able to ejaculate one way or another to relieve the ------ tension. Certainly that described me while I was younger. Though in my last relationship (13 years ago), I knew that she didn't like sex, so I learned to secretly masturbate in the bathroom before sleeping with her.
But I have recently been seriously doubting my ability to have ---. Celibacy has been fine with me for now but who knows. If I meet a woman who wants sex, then I will work with my urologist on that.
Anyway, I haven't had a relationship or physical contact with a woman for many years -- until recently.
Early last year while bar-hopping in Minneapolis, I walked into a strip-club, expecting to be quickly bored and move on.
But this sweet creature came up to me and asked me if I wanted to lap dance. I said no but gave her a $20 and told her (truthfully) I have not had any relationship or physical contact with a woman in 12 years and hoped she could sit close and talk and cuddle. She did.
Since then I have been spending about a dollar a minute (plus some extra bonuses) for "C and C" -- conversation and cuddling -- with about 3 different women. I go for a "C and C" session about 6 times a month (nearly $5500 spent since March 2007). Though I haven't been cuddling in full -- mostly she just sitting up close next to me so our legs and arms are touching, occasionally gently rubbing each other's backs and shoulders (caressing), sometimes holding hands for awhile. I have never wanted to, or asked to touch any sensitive areas of theirs, nor them of me. And never kissing. (OK, I'd like to touch sensitive areas and kissing, but its not a big deal to me, and I don't want to be seriously aroused if I can't do anything to relieve the ------ tension).
I'm generally happy about all of this. I am happy to find that I greatly enjoy the cuddling whether partial or full and that a desire for more (i.e. for sex) is not bothering me. I enjoy the happiness and contentedness feeling that light gentle non-sexual cuddling brings.
I haven't had a real girlfriend because I don't think I can offer much possibility of a marriage. I like living alone, and I'm kind of a workaholic, i.e. I'm not much in the way of Mr. Fun Guy. All the real-world girlfriends I've had in the past wanted marriage (or at least a live-together), and I feel guilty that I wasted so much of their lives without giving them what they wanted. So having pretend girlfriends in strip clubs and cuddling them is the next best thing. It works for me. - Johnny